Couple after couple write and tell me that they’ve blown it sexually, but that it was an accident–that they didn’t mean for it to happen “it just did!” So I ask them some pointed questions: “Were you spending a lot of time alone?” “Were you hanging out in each other’s bedrooms?” “Did you plan your dates so that you had some slack time to ‘be together’ alone?” And the answers always come back, “Yes”, “Yes, and “Yes.” Things never just happen by accident. In these situations, as in most, teens are saying to each other, “How close can we get to this cliff without falling over?” Wouldn’t the better question be to ask how far would be a safe distance from the cliff and then keep away from it? For people who are not married, the answers to my earlier questions should ALWAYS be “no.” I know it sounds hard-core, but without tough boundaries you will fail–Satan is not powerless!
“The night is nearly over; the day is almost here. So let us put aside the deeds of darkness and put on the armor of light. Let us behave decently, as in the daytime, not in orgies and drunkenness, not in sexual immorality and debauchery, not in dissension and jealousy. Rather, clothe yourselves with the Lord Jesus Christ, and do not think about how to gratify the desires of the sinful nature.” Romans 13:14